Motivation

Help a sista out.

I hate working out.  Like fo reals.  I like it sometimes...for example, I love swimming so getting ready to swim isn't as hard as getting ready to run or do any other activities.  I have so many free opportunities to work out though.  During the school year U of M has 3 gyms I can use for free and all of the time, the gym at Oak Pointe is available to me (parents are members).  It sucks that I am not motivated because I should be.

But what motivates other people?  I fit in my clothes and I'm definitely not in a gaining weight pattern.  No one has told me I need to work out recently.  I have no registrations for races coming up.  Summer/Bikini season is almost over anyways.  I don't have a guy I need to impress (how sad is that this is on the list of reasons that could potentially motivate me).

she's fit. jealous..no. why am i not jealous!!

Truth be told...I DO NEED TO WORKOUT.  I may not be overweight at all, but I am definitely not in shape.  My muscle tone is gone and I just look kinda flabby.  I miss being muscular and strong, and it would be nice to actually be in shape.  My goal is not to lose weight, but to be more fit and healthy.  But it takes so much to get me out the door (or in my basement, since there is basically a full gym in my house too). 

What motivates you? How do you get to the gym?

Assumptions

Remember my post on Friends With Benefits?  Well after talking with my friend Merissa I have new insights on this topic.

There are so many phrases that circulate that have something to do with relationships: hook ups, FWB, dating, seeing someone, casual dating, one night stand and the list goes on and on.  What do they all mean?  How are they initiated?  How are you viewed within the context of each one?

the dating world:

We started talking about how difficult it is to know what you want your relationship with someone to look like after just meeting them.  Say you hit it off with a guy, and would like to see him again.  Well if you contact him he assumes you're being clingy and thinks you are in love with him...when in reality maybe you just want to be friends, or even FWB.  If he knew the truth would that change his response (blowing you off or ignoring you?).  If you want casual sex and you're a girl...how are you viewed?  Likely like a slut.  Which seems kind of ridiculous. 

If you want a relationship...you're clingy and annoying.

well that's cute.

How the HELL are we supposed to know how to respond?  Is it that hard to meet someone, become friends and see where it leads?  When did communicating get so damn hard?

Tummy Ache

By now you know (either from my blog or the 200 pictures I posted on facebook) that Amanda's wedding was last weekend.

After Sunday night we got back to the hotel around 1:30 and we were starving...so we drove (not me, I was still drinking.  Denise drove) to McDonald's.  I had been doing SO well with sticking to my allergy diet...and hadn't cheated at the wedding, bachelorette party or rehearsal dinner (to my knowledge).  Well I cheated..majorly at McDonald's.

I hadn't had a cheeseburger, milkshake or their fries in 9 months...So that's exactly what I ordered.  To be honest, I only had 2 sips of my shake and didn't finish my burger.  It was SO sweet and SO salty.  I couldn't handle the grease.

I woke up that night with the WORST stomach ache and have had a tummy ache ALL week and have had horrible migraines all week too...basically, cheating is NOT worth it. 

FWB

Last week I drove to Ann Arbor to pick up my lovely friend Lisa (heyy girl) so we could go see Friends with Benefits.  Since first seeing the preview for this movie I was oh so excited..and knew I could only see it with her for various reasons :)  I saw No Strings Attached not long ago and thought they'd be quite similar given the plot of the movies being nearly identical, but it turned out that FWB was a lot cuter and No Strings Attached has a lot more sex in it.

Being a movie with Justin Timberlake I knew it'd be cute...and that it'd also be misleading to millions of women around the world...and I was oh so right.  It definitely sparked a gazillion of thoughts in my head though. 

Why do we have to be in serious relationships for both physical and emotional intimacy?  Are those not the relationships that we're most hurt by?  Rarely have I been hurt by someone who I have not actively chosen to give my heart to...so why is it that being friends with benefits with people is both looked down upon and rare? 

but it's not ONLY about sex

Couldn't that be the perfect combination of having a great friend and a way to meet needs that at the same time does not require expectations, standards, deep issues and dependency?  And why is it, may I ask, that when women express interest in being friends with benefits they are quickly viewed as the kind of girl that is not appropriate to introduce to their mother...yet when guys offer their status is unchanged?  Do women honestly like sex/partnership less than men?  No, not really.  So what's with the 1950's double standard?

The movie is about how two strangers realize they enjoy each others company, and that they could meet one anothers needs without entering the constraining confines of a relationship.  Obviously their feelings grow and a relationship becomes inevitable.  When I left I felt like it was too cheesy because that's never how FWB relationships end...but honestly, is that not the best way a relationship could develop?  Your best friends, you know each others quirks, you have great chemistry and you enjoy each others company.  Best way ever to determine compatibility if you ask me.  But you didn't I guess.  So that was all free. 

Amanda's Big Day Part II

So it's over.  Which is both a refreshing thought and a sad one.  We've all been looking forward to Yesterday for a YEAR (even longer, really) so now that all of the festivities are done, it feels surreal. 

Amanda was SUCH a beautiful bride, and I can't imagine a wedding that was more fun...seriously.  We danced for 5 hours and had an amazing time.  The bridal party got along great and we all enjoyed each others company which was also a HUGE bonus.  All in all...it was simply amazing.

Bachelorette Party :)

Rehearsal Dinner

Amanda's Big Day Part I

Hello blogosphere! 

I'm up, showered, dressed and lotioned at 7:30 in the morning...must be something exciting happening today.  You guessed it...Amanda's Wedding!!!

After getting less than 5 hours of sleep on Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday (3 hours), and Friday nights, I finally got about 7 hours last night!! I feel refreshed and ALIVE!! I am so excited to be a part of this day and grand celebration.  If anyone can last a lifetime it's these two love birds.  They are simply beautiful people who have decided to love this world, their Creator and each other through the bountiful days ahead.

Be on the lookout for pictures from the Bachelorette Party (Thursday), Rehearsal Dinner (Friday) and of course, the wedding!

Tick Tock..

As we are nearing August...we are also nearing the point where my life becomes CRAZY.  Every week in August something is happening that is out of the ordinary.  It starts with the end of July of course, which obviously means that AMANDA IS GETTING MARRIED IN THREE DAYS.

The first week: Working lots and lots.  Working on the weekend too.  More working.  My family will be on the boat.  I'm bitter.

Second week:  Working lots and lots.  Doctor's appointments.  More working.  Spending the night and working.

Third week: Working some more.  More working.  Finally going back down to the boat that weekend.  Wanna come? LMK.

Fourth week: Orientation meetings start.  More working.  PET scan.  Work. Boat that weekend.

Fifth week:  Orientation all week.  Doulaing.  Working.  Oh and working.  Then the boat for 6 days.  Hallelujah.  Then I come home and start school. boo.


I'm tired now.