Remember my post on Friends With Benefits? Well after talking with my friend Merissa I have new insights on this topic.
There are so many phrases that circulate that have something to do with relationships: hook ups, FWB, dating, seeing someone, casual dating, one night stand and the list goes on and on. What do they all mean? How are they initiated? How are you viewed within the context of each one?
We started talking about how difficult it is to know what you want your relationship with someone to look like after just meeting them. Say you hit it off with a guy, and would like to see him again. Well if you contact him he assumes you're being clingy and thinks you are in love with him...when in reality maybe you just want to be friends, or even FWB. If he knew the truth would that change his response (blowing you off or ignoring you?). If you want casual sex and you're a girl...how are you viewed? Likely like a slut. Which seems kind of ridiculous.
If you want a relationship...you're clingy and annoying.
How the HELL are we supposed to know how to respond? Is it that hard to meet someone, become friends and see where it leads? When did communicating get so damn hard?
There are so many phrases that circulate that have something to do with relationships: hook ups, FWB, dating, seeing someone, casual dating, one night stand and the list goes on and on. What do they all mean? How are they initiated? How are you viewed within the context of each one?
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We started talking about how difficult it is to know what you want your relationship with someone to look like after just meeting them. Say you hit it off with a guy, and would like to see him again. Well if you contact him he assumes you're being clingy and thinks you are in love with him...when in reality maybe you just want to be friends, or even FWB. If he knew the truth would that change his response (blowing you off or ignoring you?). If you want casual sex and you're a girl...how are you viewed? Likely like a slut. Which seems kind of ridiculous.
If you want a relationship...you're clingy and annoying.
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| well that's cute. |
How the HELL are we supposed to know how to respond? Is it that hard to meet someone, become friends and see where it leads? When did communicating get so damn hard?
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