FWB

Last week I drove to Ann Arbor to pick up my lovely friend Lisa (heyy girl) so we could go see Friends with Benefits.  Since first seeing the preview for this movie I was oh so excited..and knew I could only see it with her for various reasons :)  I saw No Strings Attached not long ago and thought they'd be quite similar given the plot of the movies being nearly identical, but it turned out that FWB was a lot cuter and No Strings Attached has a lot more sex in it.

Being a movie with Justin Timberlake I knew it'd be cute...and that it'd also be misleading to millions of women around the world...and I was oh so right.  It definitely sparked a gazillion of thoughts in my head though. 

Why do we have to be in serious relationships for both physical and emotional intimacy?  Are those not the relationships that we're most hurt by?  Rarely have I been hurt by someone who I have not actively chosen to give my heart to...so why is it that being friends with benefits with people is both looked down upon and rare? 

but it's not ONLY about sex

Couldn't that be the perfect combination of having a great friend and a way to meet needs that at the same time does not require expectations, standards, deep issues and dependency?  And why is it, may I ask, that when women express interest in being friends with benefits they are quickly viewed as the kind of girl that is not appropriate to introduce to their mother...yet when guys offer their status is unchanged?  Do women honestly like sex/partnership less than men?  No, not really.  So what's with the 1950's double standard?

The movie is about how two strangers realize they enjoy each others company, and that they could meet one anothers needs without entering the constraining confines of a relationship.  Obviously their feelings grow and a relationship becomes inevitable.  When I left I felt like it was too cheesy because that's never how FWB relationships end...but honestly, is that not the best way a relationship could develop?  Your best friends, you know each others quirks, you have great chemistry and you enjoy each others company.  Best way ever to determine compatibility if you ask me.  But you didn't I guess.  So that was all free.